Have you ever found yourself developing feelings for someone you see often – a coworker, gym buddy, or neighbor? It’s not necessarily love at first sight, but a familiar face sparks interest. This phenomenon, commonly known as the “convenience crush,” is taking over social media
The term “convenient crush” primarily encompasses the idea of developing romantic feelings due to proximity and frequent interactions. As Bengaluru-based relationship coach Aadya Mishra explains, “It’s about the illusion of a deeper connection created by constant contact.”
Why are we attracted to convenience?
Experts believe that the attraction to convenience is rooted in our brain’s inclination towards comfort and familiarity. Relationship coach Siddharth S Kumar elaborates, “Whether it’s in person or online, people often experience a sense of attraction based on easy access and frequent interactions. This is especially common in environments such as workplaces, schools, or neighborhoods.”
Signs of a convenient crush
Frequent meetings in shared spaces
Regular and predictable interactions
A superficial relationship devoid of emotional depth
Emotions strongly attached to the current situation
Not focused on a long-term relationship or the future
If you find yourself falling into the trap of being drawn to convenience, consider these steps:
Accept the situation: Understand that your feelings are based primarily on familiarity, not deeper emotions.
Limit interactions: Reducing the frequency of interactions can help reduce the intensity of your feelings.
Expand your social circle: Meeting new people can give you a fresh perspective and distance you from privileged people.
Self-reflection: Find out the underlying reasons why you developed a crush.
Seek support: Talking to friends, family, or a professional can provide guidance and emotional support.
, Inputs by Siddharth S Kumar
