Mother-In-Law Day: Not every mother-in-law is sour! If the daughter-in-law adopts these tips as a daughter, then the mother-in-law will also become a close friend.

When Lalita Pawar, Shashikala, Manorama, Aruna Irani and Bindu used to play mother-in-law in Bollywood films, the audience used to hate them. Mother-in-law was always shown as a villain on screen. Conspiring against the daughter-in-law, instigating the son against her and giving a scary smile after seeing the tears of the poor daughter-in-law… became the identity of the mother-in-law. Mother-in-law may be seen in a bitter and negative role, but it is not necessary that every mother-in-law be like this. It is very important for every daughter-in-law to be with them. on 27th October Mother-In-Law Day Is. On this occasion, know how mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can become good friends.

Daughter-in-law is considered a stranger
It is a difficult task for the mother-in-law to accept the daughter-in-law and for the daughter-in-law to accept the mother-in-law as her mother. of America Arizona State University Studied on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Thousands of mother-in-laws and daughters-in-law participated in this and everyone cited lack of blood relation as the reason for this. The mother-in-law also said that she considers both the son-in-law and the daughter-in-law as outsiders. But the daughter-in-law gets trapped in this thinking. Since mother-in-law is elderly, it is very difficult to change her behavior and thinking. Daughter-in-law and son come in the sandwich generation because they have the double responsibility of raising their elder generation i.e. their in-laws and their younger generation i.e. their children. Everyone expects the daughter-in-law to take up the responsibility of the entire family well. But the daughter-in-law is never considered a daughter. If the sufferings of the daughter-in-law and the daughter are similar, the mother-in-law becomes sad seeing the daughter’s suffering, but when it is the turn of the daughter-in-law, her problems are ignored. Daughter-in-law is a new member of the family. He does not know everyone’s behavior and likes and dislikes. The special thing is that in most of the houses he is not even told about this. Everyone is expecting tea at 5 in the morning from the same new member whereas the daughter-in-law should inform her mother-in-law about the family customs even before the marriage.

conflict due to power game
Mother-in-law is also sometimes daughter-in-law. When she is a daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law rules over her. The woman who obeyed those orders also thinks that when her daughter-in-law comes, she will rule over her. The power game between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law disturbs the balance in the house. Till the arrival of the daughter-in-law, the son involves the mother in his decisions and daily work, but when the daughter-in-law arrives, this position is taken over by the wife. Many times the mother-in-law starts considering her son as a slave because she wants to control her son as per her wish. This happens more with those women whose husband has never listened to them, always kept his mother’s opinion above. When such a woman becomes a mother-in-law, she can become dangerous for her daughter-in-law. The tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be related to food, clothing, religious beliefs and lifestyle. But this tussle mostly starts from kitchen politics.

It is important to give time to relationships
Relationship Expert Komal Yadav She says that no relationship is built in a day. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very delicate. The initial years of marriage are very difficult for a daughter-in-law because everyone in her in-laws’ house is new to her, including her husband. In such a situation, it is not easy to establish a cordial relationship with the mother-in-law immediately. As time passes, people start understanding. It is very important to give time to every relationship and when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law start understanding each other, things start becoming easier. Anyway, time and people never remain the same. Every relationship becomes stronger with patience.

Match the horoscope of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, not of son and daughter-in-law.
Often people get the horoscopes of their son and daughter-in-law matched before marriage or hold a meeting between the girl and the boy and give them a chance to understand each other. Some people also take couple therapy before marriage, but apart from girl-boy meeting or horoscope, meeting of mother-in-law is also necessary. Apart from this, every couple should take therapy before marriage. Due to this, the girl who will become daughter-in-law already knows the likes and dislikes of her mother-in-law and due to all these things, there is no cold war between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can become good examples of women empowerment (Image-Canva)

Daughter-in-law becomes stronger than mother-in-law
If you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, your daughter-in-law can study further and grow as well. A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law empowers both. If the mother-in-law makes the daughter-in-law feel comfortable and gives an atmosphere of belonging in the house, then the daughter-in-law also supports the mother-in-law. Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law can also prove to be good friends. Today, women who are working and progressing in their career, not only their husbands but also their mother-in-laws are involved in their success. It is the mother-in-law who inspires her daughter-in-law to pursue a career outside the home because she knows that today’s women can manage their home along with their career. Peace is maintained in the house due to good understanding of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

This is how to win mother-in-law’s heart
Every daughter-in-law can become her mother-in-law’s favourite. Relationship Expert Komal Yadav according to To win the heart of your mother-in-law, it is important that she respects her. When there is respect in a relationship, every relationship becomes sweet. Always talk to your mother-in-law lovingly and politely. Spend time with them, do things they like, take them for a walk. Look at the positive qualities of your mother-in-law and try to learn new things from her. Help them in household chores. Talk to them from your heart and know their state of mind. Praise your mother-in-law. Praise makes everyone happy and give them gifts without any occasion. Even if you have an argument with your mother-in-law, still apologize to her. Talk to them because this removes all misunderstandings.

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