Relationship Tips For Mother in law: It is natural to have disputes in the family on some issue or the other. Apart from the disputes between husband and wife, the most prevalent is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is very delicate and special too. Every mother-in-law hands over her rights and responsibilities along with her son to her daughter-in-law and expects that her daughter-in-law will take care of the family.
The mother-in-law, being a mother, tries to teach and explain to the daughter-in-law how to manage the family, but many times the daughter-in-law considers it as asserting her mother-in-law’s authority and ignores her words. Mother-in-law feels that daughter-in-law does not listen to her or respect her. In such a situation, it is normal to have discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
It is natural that a woman who has looked after her family for years expects her daughter-in-law to look after her family and relationships in the same manner after her son’s marriage. But the daughter-in-law, who has her own different lifestyle, preferences and thoughts, her way of handling the family may also be different from that of the mother-in-law.
In such a situation, conflict starts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Many times, fights and disputes increase so much that the daughter-in-law does not want to live in her in-laws’ house. If your daughter-in-law does not want to live in the in-laws’ house or your mother-in-law does not listen to your father-in-law, then by adopting some methods you can save the relationship from breaking and you can teach your daughter-in-law to live happily with her in-laws.
have a conversation
Mother-in-law should talk openly to her daughter-in-law. Misunderstandings can be resolved by sitting together and talking. Try to understand what is the reason for your daughter-in-law’s anger and stubborn attitude. It is possible that your daughter-in-law is not liking the way you are teaching and explaining things to her or she may be feeling isolated from the family because of your rules and regulations.
understand the daughter-in-law’s perspective
Your daughter-in-law may have her own thoughts and views. Especially if you have an educated and employed daughter-in-law, it is normal for you to have ideological differences with her. In such a situation, try to understand what the daughter-in-law wants, what is her view on family and relationships and at the same time respect her thoughts and way of living.
make daughter in law daughter
As a mother-in-law, you expect your daughter-in-law to treat you like her mother. After marriage, the daughter-in-law’s priority should be your son and in-laws. For this, it is important that you give respect and honor to your daughter-in-law like a daughter. Different rules and regulations for your daughter and your different behavior for your daughter-in-law will drive them away from you. In such a situation, the daughter-in-law neither considers the mother-in-law as her mother nor listens to her words.
Support of daughter-in-law’s decisions
In most cases, the daughter-in-law does not want to live in her in-laws’ house because she wants independence. She wants to take decisions for her husband, children or home, but because of her mother-in-law and father-in-law, it is difficult for her to get the right to take decisions. In such a situation, let the daughter-in-law take decisions related to the family. Provide support in their decisions.
Do not put pressure on your daughter-in-law
Mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to manage the family like her. The mother-in-law tells the time and manner of waking up, sleeping or eating and drinking of the daughter-in-law. Due to this the daughter-in-law comes under pressure. For example, the mother-in-law tells the daughter-in-law that like her, she wakes up at 5 in the morning, what to do, what to cook, whom to talk to and from whom to keep distance. In this way the daughter-in-law starts feeling pressure in the family. The mother-in-law should explain the good and bad to the daughter-in-law but should not put pressure on her and should allow the daughter-in-law to manage the family in her own way. So that the daughter-in-law can herself realize which way would be better to manage the house.
Tag: lifestyle, relationship
first published : December 17, 2024, 12:59 IST
